7 steps below will Help you be lacking in confidence no more.
7招教你抬头挺胸重拾自信
监控消极的声音
Start by monitoring your negative voice.Notice when you are self-critical, and observe the conversations that go on inyour head. When you become aware of the conversations, you can then work onchanging them. Your job is to ensure that the voice in your head is positiveand supportive at all times and not negative and critical.
从监控自己的消极的声音开始吧。当你自我批评时就要注意了，考虑一下在你脑海里的对话。当你意识到这些对话内容时，你就可以想办法去改变这些对话的内容了。你一定要确保你脑海里的声音永远都是积极向上的，不要有任何的消极的批判。
朋友与家人
Ask your family and friends for theirhonest opinions about what your strengths are. What do they think you are goodat? What were you good at when you were a child? If you want an extensivereview, write out a checklist, and ask them what they think of you in thelisted areas. Ask a couple of people and then you can see if the opinions aresimilar—just make sure the person you ask is not someone who is jealous of youor would have any reason to hurt or offend you.
问问家人和朋友，让他们诚实的说出你的强项在哪里、他们认为你擅长什么、你小的时候又擅长什么?如果你想要个全面的评估，那就写个单子，按着单子上的内容逐一询问。可以多问几个人，看看大家的意见是否相似。
3.No Comparisons
不要与别人比
Don’t compare yourself with others—it’s arecipe for disaster. You only need to be good enough for you, so it doesn’tmatter what you sister, brother, friend or enemy has achieved. Make your ownstandards and set goals that are right for you.
不要总和别人比，因为这是灾难的开始。你只需要在自己能力范围内做到最好就可以了。无论是你的兄弟姐妹，还是你的朋友敌人取得了什么样的成绩都不重要。你只要拥有合适自己的标准和目标就可以了。
要写日志
Take a long look at yourself and write apage describing yourself. Journalling can be a great way to look at yourselfobjectively. Tell your story like it belongs to someone else. What do youhonestly think you are good at? Nobody has to see what you write, just writefor you. Write down all of your past achievements—start with last year andwrite about anything that went well, and then extend the list year by year,making sure you include all of your achievements.
仔细的考虑过后，写下一页关于描述自己的内容。日志是一个非常好的帮助你客观自我鉴定的方法。要像描述别人一样讲自己的故事。诚实的面对自己，你认为自己擅长什么?没必要把你写的东西给别人看。把你过去所有的成就都写下来，可以从去年开始，然后将内容按着年来延伸，一定要确保把自己所有的成就都写下来。
性格鉴定
Do a Personality assessment. Theseassessments are a great way to understand yourself and to see how you fit in inthe world; your personal strengths will become more apparent when you arefamiliar with your own personality.
做个性格鉴定。这一个非常棒的办法让你更好的了解自己，让你知道自己是如何在这个世界立足的。如果你能清晰的了解自己性格上的有点，你就能好的了解自己。
6.Create a Positive Environment
创造积极的环境
Make sure that you surround yourself withpeople who love and support you. If criticism is coming from external sources,remove yourself from the environments that encourage negativity. If you don’thave any friends or family members who inspire and uplift you, join a communitythat will. There are many groups, both online and offline, that have beenformed to encourage people towards a happier and positive life; join one.
要确定自己与爱你支持你的人在一起。如果批评来自于外界，那就让自己离开这个消极的环境。如果你身边没有愿意激励你、抬高你的人，那就加入一个有这样的人的群体里。在互联网上和现实生活中都有愿意鼓励别人，让别人更快乐更积极的集体，找到他们加入他们。
7.Drown Yourself in Positivity
让自己积极乐观
Create affirmations that uplift you. Postpositive messages to yourself all over your house and work, and every time yousay something negative to yourself, replace it with positive thoughts or words.The most important thing to remember is that you are in control of yourthoughts. Any past negative patterns can be broken but you must fill the voidwith positive supportive thoughts and words. Remember that it’s important to behappy with who you, are and to achieve things in life that are right for you.So get a bit of perspective, look at yourself objectively and learn how to behappy with who you are.
写一句肯定自我的话。将它贴满自己的房间和工作的地方，每一次你否定自我的时候，就用这句肯定自我的话将脑海中的消息信息替换掉。最重要的是要记住控制自己的思想。任何消极的思维都可以被消灭，但是你需要用一个积极向上的思维将其替换掉。要记住，你开开心心的做自己，开开心心的成就你人生中改成就的事。因此好好审视一下自己，想想要如何开开心心的做自己.